The other day a question was asked of me by a good friend and I want to share it. She simply asked, what actions do I think are considered cheating? I was taken aback because I believe that a lot of different actions can be considered cheating when in relationships, but everyone views them differently. Meaning, I may consider flirting as just a friendly action that doesn’t depict cheating, whereas someone else will say that flirting with someone other than your mate, friendly flirting or otherwise is without a doubt a form of cheating.
So in light of tonight’s subject matter on Blog Talk Radio Live with NEKO CHERI and SUN, “Your Relationship Stimulus Package”, I ask the question, what is cheating to you? This may not necessarily have anything directly to do with the subject on tonight’s show, but my question encompasses issues in relationships also. Your responses are for my own personal interest. Quick plug, check out hot subject matter and my interview on the show tonight starting at 8:30pm until 10:30pm Eastern time. Link is: www.blogtalkradio.com/nekocherilive and the call in number is 347-855-8673 press 1 to talk.
Now, I feel that there are many forms of cheating, but as I said previously I view some actions differently than others. I think there are boundaries to everything and you know which ones should not be crossed. I also know that people cheat for various reasons. There are a number of people out there who stray from their relationships because they believe that it’s okay, that they won’t get caught or because it’s excitement of the challenge. But then there are those who cheat because they are truly lacking something meaningful, tangible and loving within their relationship. By no means am I saying that cheating is right, I have cheated and have been cheated on, but sometimes there are reasons that people do what they do.
I’ve learned that when something is missing between the two people that made commitments to one another, whether it be marriage or otherwise, one or both are bound to stray. This is why I emphatically believe in verbal communication at all times. In addition I believe that intimacy, physical closeness, romance, flirtatiousness with your mate, compliments, date time, cuddle time, love making mentally and physically, supporting what the other one does whether it’s your area of enjoyment or not are just some of what a relationship needs to grow. Basically, whatever you did to get the one you’re with, it shouldn’t stop just because you “have them” now. If you got your hair done before you got married, don’t stop looking beautiful once you said “I do” (and that’s not just for married folks lol). If you rubbed his back and kissed him passionately when he went on a business trip in the beginning during the honeymoon stage of your relationship, keep sending him away on trips happy even after years have passed!
As my song Sweet Sexation says, “I’m not an expert on love, but I know what I’ve been needing from you.” Every single one of us knows what we need from a relationship and from a person to stimulate, sustain, nurture and keep us happy, even through the disagreements. If by chance they aren’t doing it, THEN TELL THEM! Let cheating be your last resort. I firmly believe that no matter how long you have been with someone that the honeymoon doesn’t have to stop after some months have passed. My parents have been together for fifty-three years, married for forty-eight and they still kiss, kind of gross LOL and they also still go on dates. So figure out your stimulus package and make it work. I believe in falling in love everyday with the one you’re with. Now if the love is gone and the boat can’t be fixed, well then that’s a show for Oprah. Tune in, I’m sure she will have something like that on her show again soon LOL.
So again I ask, what is cheating to you?
