Comments on: Why The First Blow? http://www.trealee.com/2009/09/why-the-first-blow/ Tue, 07 Sep 2010 23:17:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Getting My Ex Partner Back http://www.trealee.com/2009/09/why-the-first-blow/comment-page-1/#comment-34 Getting My Ex Partner Back Wed, 21 Oct 2009 19:19:50 +0000 http://www.trealee.com/?p=255#comment-34 As a Newbie, I am always searching online for relationship articles that can help me. Thank you As a Newbie, I am always searching online for relationship articles that can help me. Thank you

]]> By: Tre Alee http://www.trealee.com/2009/09/why-the-first-blow/comment-page-1/#comment-18 Tre Alee Wed, 23 Sep 2009 12:49:09 +0000 http://www.trealee.com/?p=255#comment-18 Powerful! I remeber so much of that and I'm grateful that you felt comfortable to share your story. I'm just grateful to God that He brought you out safely and a better and stronger woman! Love you much for sharing... Powerful! I remeber so much of that and I’m grateful that you felt comfortable to share your story. I’m just grateful to God that He brought you out safely and a better and stronger woman! Love you much for sharing…

]]> By: AJ (friend of "Eddie") http://www.trealee.com/2009/09/why-the-first-blow/comment-page-1/#comment-17 AJ (friend of "Eddie") Wed, 23 Sep 2009 12:41:14 +0000 http://www.trealee.com/?p=255#comment-17 The THE FIRST BLOW did tackle a lot of issues that we as African American women try to hide, and if I may, let me take it to even a different level, we as African Americans try to hide these issues, but African American women who are in the church hide it the best. Not only do we have the reputation of being strong simply because we are black women, but we also have the identification of having"the power of Jesus" behind us which should be giving us the ability to overcome anything even the more. While this is a true statement, sometimes even with Christ in our corner, we get a little off the path and find ourselves in situations that are not what we as daughters of Christ are expected to get involved in. I'm a black woman, I'm a woman who serves and acknowledges Christ in my life, but found myself in a relationship that wasn't not healthy, not once but twice, I found myself married to a man( a minister) that was very emotionally abusive, and then entered into a relationship with a man who spent a great deal of the the relationship with other women. It took a long time for me to come to grips with what happened to me, and to make peace with the fact that even today my ex-husband doesn't realize what he did to me and why I left, and to make peace with the fact that even though son's father was a cheater, I was a woman of worth and value. With God's help and with the support of family and friends I am a mentally healthy and stable woman and mother today, and that is what makes me and other women who have exsperienced all forms of abuse strong, we aren't weak because we loaned our hearts out to the wrong person we are strong because after the various things we exsperience we were able take back our hearts, pick ourselves up, brush ourselves off and get back in the game. Now that is a strong woman!!!! The THE FIRST BLOW did tackle a lot of issues that we as African American women try to hide, and if I may, let me take it to even a different level, we as African Americans try to hide these issues, but African American women who are in the church hide it the best. Not only do we have the reputation of being strong simply because we are black women, but we also have the identification of having”the power of Jesus” behind us which should be giving us the ability to overcome anything even the more. While this is a true statement, sometimes even with Christ in our corner, we get a little off the path and find ourselves in situations that are not what we as daughters of Christ are expected to get involved in.

I’m a black woman, I’m a woman who serves and acknowledges Christ in my life, but found myself in a relationship that wasn’t not healthy, not once but twice, I found myself married to a man( a minister) that was very emotionally abusive, and then entered into a relationship with a man who spent a great deal of the the relationship with other women. It took a long time for me to come to grips with what happened to me, and to make peace with the fact that even today my ex-husband doesn’t realize what he did to me and why I left, and to make peace with the fact that even though son’s father was a cheater, I was a woman of worth and value. With God’s help and with the support of family and friends I am a mentally healthy and stable woman and mother today, and that is what makes me and other women who have exsperienced all forms of abuse strong, we aren’t weak because we loaned our hearts out to the wrong person we are strong because after the various things we exsperience we were able take back our hearts, pick ourselves up, brush ourselves off and get back in the game. Now that is a strong woman!!!!

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